The starting point for any recovery is to stop wallowing in your misery and accept the reality . Whether it’s a relationship, job, business or finances, You must accept the reality first, stop wallowing in misery and allow the best to happen. Yes, it’s a bummer. Yes, you’re likely the victim of somebody else wrongdoing or your own doings, or uncontrollable circumstances. Yes, it’s devastating. But Most important of all;- None of that matters now. What matters is what you do about it. When a not-expected event happens, just stand strong and know what’s done is done and there is no turning back. Resisting what’s already a fact is futile, so don’t waste your energy – accept the reality. I have seen lots of men and women who try to resist the reality, its very bad, trying to resist the reality makes you lose power to restart and revive what have been messed. Living in the past only makes forward progress more difficult. Some things will be mended as you keep going. Leave what happened to take care of itself for now, accept the setback, let go of it, and commit to forward movement and revival of few damages incurred.