Given a deeper understanding, relationships are about give and take, however, in healthy relationships there is an overall healthy balance of practice to give and take without having to kill yourselves getting that balance and there is certainly no need for lots of drama to achieve this. Nicholas K Quest Quotes Return On Investment (ROI) within relationships refers to the ratio of what you’ve gained or lost against what you invested into the relationship. This is not about financial or material gain or loss. This is about The Three Es: Emotion, Esteem, and Energy. It’s very difficult for you to take the relationship out of negative equity – that rather uncomfortable place where your investment is now worth less than what it was when you started. You’ll effectively have to continue to pay out emotionally even though there is a deficit and this can be soul-destroying. If the market (your relationship) continues to decline, it can be very difficult to pull yourself out of the relationship black hole because you will struggle to know who you are or what you are personally worth, particularly because if you date emotionally unavailable people, you tend to derive your worth from them and

Conventionally we have been conditioned by society and tradition that men should be the breadwinner, romance initiators and missionaries of providence and protection in the household. It might have been possible and the real deal then but in today’s world it is not necessarily the case. Many couples find themselves in a situation where they both have to work to contribute to the financial, emotional and moral fabric that relationships are.  This traditional belief has a huge impact on conventional thinking men today from an egoistic perspective in that they (and society) place expectations on themselves that they should be the sole providers for their family. Get me well, it is still the right thing for a man to be a lion’s share breadwinner, but come on, two is company and that is strength. And in a situation where one is struggling, one can always come in for another. However often men deem admitting as a weakness and/or feel ashamed and embarrassed about the situation. As men we need to realize that it is not a sign of weakness but rather of brevity and truth to ask for help or manifest current weakness and struggles. Dear sisters (married/relating ones), Love