I spent my adult-teenage in technical schools, mostly single schools, so we were somehow always curious to have deeper talk on sex and women. When i turned around 19, 20 something (adult), talking about a number of teats and honey pots you may have already accessed was a hero talk. You were shielded as the great.
If you didn’t know, with boys this is always a hero talk. Some of us who were fearful would just coil our tails feeling like not great men because we had no or fewer numbers to boast about. With society, if you were blessed with a pen*s and have used it to make enough ‘harmless’ marks, you are crowned the man! In modern day it is okay for a man to tell a number of women they bedded in their past but when it comes to a woman then society translates it to something else. Defense sayings like : “A key that opens many locks is a master key where as a padlock that is opened by many keys is fake”
In this article i want to break that stereotype. Not necessarily about sexism and stereotypes around it but about the art of being unapologetically you. I think we are all human, we all have flaws, experiences, choices and where we come from. If men can be master keys and get praised, women too can be master padlocks and be championed. These acts of getting women being judged for how many people they’ve bedded, while their male counterparts are celebrated is something that no longer holds any water. What validators do we base on to judge? Many other judgement based on our past also haunt us in life and i want to say; Own it up and move on, be you.
It doesn’t matter!
We all own our own choices, We make many at different times, circumstances too at times drag us into shit but life moves on. When i am looking for someone to love (and have sex with) i look less on the games they have participated in but rather which personality they are today. Digging into number of holes filled is for the young boys. When you are looking for Gold you don’t count the layers it had been wrapped in but you check the Gold itself. It is Gold because of the mud it hides in.
Life and living it is a choice influenced by many things and experiences we face in life. We all have made these choices, reason we have fewer or no adult virgins. If you want to fuck anyone harmlessly, so be it, do it, be less judged. No one should make you feel guilty for a decision that’s yours to truly, you f**ked and that’s all. It was and is your choice and decision and you can still make another different or the same. You must only be judged by your lacking confidence but not the choices you confidently made – like sliding into those warm sheets.
I hope you stop feeling less of yourself and start accepting who you are, washing off the society dogma and stereotypes. You thrive better out of the convention and away from dogmatic thoughts and this starts when you chose to be who you are minus fearing the judgement of those that own no plot in your territory of life. I hope you look back and tell it boldly as is away from the fear of judgment. Whichever that was, so be it. Tell it bold!
Be unfuckwithable
Going away from the sexism talk and stereotypes, you realize that Real freedom start when we accept who we are unapologetically. Freedom is to boldly own your past, choices, strengths and weaknesses, dreams and desires, fears and all your crack marks and pieces. It is something i talked about in my book; THE CHAMPION’S MOJO about the art of being Unfuckwithable; Being unapologetically You and accepting all you are unattached to society Dogma. As originated from the Internet, the world Unfuckwithable means to be at peace and in touch with yourself and reality around you to the point that nothing anyone says or does can bother you or make you feel less. I explain about this trait in some Chapter of my book, You can have it below now!
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Nicholas K. Quest >> is a Best Selling Transformational Author, Consultant and Serial Entrepreneur. He is passionate about helping others to achieve their greatest dreams and ambitions through his Transformational education & development programs. Follow Nicholas’ work through his training/Publishing and Consulting firms respectively: Legacy Pearls Africa, NBK-Premier Solutions, DETT Community
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